Blurt Self Careathon Day 18

Social

It is important to get out into the big wide world some days. I know it can be a scary place when your anxiety is through the roof and all you want to do is hibernate under your duvet until you feel a bit better and more able to cope. I've been there. I've had that debilitating vice-like grip that seems to stop you in your tracks and make you immobile.

I found out through trial and error, that what sometimes lessens my anxiety, is actually doing the thing that I'm fearing most at that moment; leaving the house. I've been for a walk to the end of the road and back, stood in the garden for a few minutes, sat on the back doorstep, (generally while drinking a brew) walked around the block and walked into town for a longer stint outside if needed. Fresh air and movement are wonderful for lowering anxiety.

I used to be such a social person and then over time I found it more difficult to be around people I didn't know that well, or be surrounded by a large group. The thought of it would often have me diving for my duvet. I stopped saying 'yes' to social invitations and slowly some people stopped asking me to places. Some friends, however, have stood by me and still ask me to join in with things. One friend has invited me out with lots of his other friends to celebrate his birthday every year since we met around seven years ago, even though I was only able to make the most recent one last year, because of my anxiety and work commitments. I really appreciate him asking me every year although, I never expect him to.

I try and make it to some social events that I am invited to even if I only manage to stay for a few hours, at least I have made it out of the house. There are positive feelings I get when I have managed to do something I was anxious about. Getting a little out of your comfort zone is how we grow as people, we meet new people and potential new friends when we say yes to social invitations.