I’ve not done resolutions for years and instead, I decided to switch to goals and that’s working much better for me. There’s less pressure that way, and as it’s a goal, I’ve something to work towards.

I honestly can’t remember if I made any goals at the beginning of 2023, other than completing therapy and making it to the end of the year, by making it to the end of each day.

I used to wonder ‘what if’ until I realised there wasn't anything I could do to change the past. What happened, happened, and there’s nothing I can do to change it. It’s done. Set in stone. It’s not changing.

What I can do is learn from the mistakes I’ve made and try to make wiser choices in the future. I believe there are events mapped out in our lives that will happen, both good and bad, and we can’t do anything to stop them.

After my last relationship ended around ten years ago, I felt a nudge that I needed to stay single and heal further from my abusive past. I clearly wasn’t as healed as I thought before entering that short-lived relationship, as it turned out that he also wasn't good for me.